I am a relationship coach.
At the core of every single thing we do on this planet are relationships.
Capitalism, I am back. And I am going to use you like a sex toy to get what I want.
There are many ways to interact with people. Sometimes it’s transactional, sometimes it’s romantic. Sometimes it’s even both. 😂
I have been exploring the romantic and platonic part of interacting with other humans, and now I am diving back into the transactional because I am feeling like using capitalism to raise the standard of human connection.
I am delusional enough to believe that when we become more competent at relating to each other, we will become more collectively powerful to actually dismantle capitalism from its roots.
Even more immediately, here are common problems that are not only bringing us down but also bringing down our collective humanity right this second:
Being unable to find friends you actually like and cannot wait to text a dissertation of everything that went down on your latest dilemma
Finding your sex life with your partner(s) - committed, temporary, long term, short term, or otherwise - a perpetual homework and project you “need to work on”
Dreading logging onto work because you don’t know how to relate to your boss who has no idea how to communicate with anyone effectively
Hiding from meeting anyone new - romantic, platonic, or anything in between - because you freeze at the prospect of judgment
Seeing your entire body drop at the thought of being honest with your family about your latest feelings around your career, marriage, parenting, politics, everything
Being unable to find teachers and mentors who just get it and can walk with you without prescribing solutions or passing judgment on your decisions
All of these issues have a common thread: the relationships we have with the people around us is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves.
When we ignore the relationship we have with ourselves - meaning, we ignore the urges, the aching, the internal screaming - we will just as easily ignore the same experiences of those we are in relationship with.
Even if we don’t ignore them, we will not know how to interact with the urges, the aching, and the internal screaming of those we care about because we are not proficient at interacting with those reactions within ourselves.
That is how we miss opportunities to love others the way they want to be loved. These missed opportunities become the seed of resentment and even trauma in relationships.
I have watched these seeds grow into violence not just in family units but also across entire nations.
I am sure you have, too.
Which is why activism at any level of any kind begins with examining the relationships we have with those closest to us.
There is no taller order in our lives than building relationships based on our truth.
Every time you decide to tell someone the truth of how you feel even if it means your heart takes an uncomfortable leap, the world gets closer to its own aliveness and further away from violence.
So every time you delight in your own relationships, our collective humanity become stronger in the face of oppression. Imagine:
Growing a circle of friends that you actually love and not having to play guessing games around how real and meaningful the relationship is
Watching your sex life become a non-issue because you're having sex that results from the organic desire between you and your partner(s) because of how you are able to relate to them
Finding your employer a source of amusement and delight rather than a source of dread because you are getting what you want from them
Becoming so excited about meeting new people because you understand the richness of human relationships AND you know how to communicate your boundaries expertly
Cultivating a relationship to your partners and parents and kids that makes you feel right at home even if they don't know everything about you.
Building an ecosystem of mentors who just get it and springboard you to the answers *you* are looking for based on you you are
Every time any of this happens, we get to hear your heart beat. And when we hear your heart beat, we connect more deeply with those we resonate with.
Nothing great in the history of humanity has been done without the beating and aching heart of humans sharing a vision.
The question is whether you will be part of this work. Not just for you. But also for everybody else and generations after you.
The sustainability of this planet hinges on the loudness of your heart beat.
We’re gonna make your relationships feel like home again.
Find out how I can be your relationship coach: angela-han.com/offer