When you and your partner's libidos are at very different places

Because no one talks about this

Here is what I know:

In heterosexual marriages, men often experience higher libidos than women. As a result, women often feel shame around not being able to “perform” or “please” their partner. And the men often feel shame around having “too much” sexual needs and wanting that from other women.

This is not the case for everyone. But if you resonate with any of this, you may also identify with the many ruptures your relationship may have experienced as a result of these differences. It’s time to fucking talk about how we repair these ruptures and unshame this very natural phenomenon once and for all.

*Please note that this piece is primarily for cis het relationships because I am not well-informed on other types of relationships. I am sorry that this may feel exclusive, and I will endeavor to inform myself for future pieces.